Say what? There's a research-based way to talk about how we each give & receive love? And it could give me a better understanding of myself & my SO?
OH YEAH! Buckle up, friends! We love this topic!!
We know that many of you have been quarantined with your SO for the past few months - with the hopes of still loving each other when all of this is over! It can be tough to be with anyone in quarantine for months on end, especially someone you love so deeply! So we’re determined to help make this a time to strengthen your relationship through communication and a little love potion we like to call: The Five Love Languages.
To do that, we thought we’d introduce you to Audra’s husband of 10 years, Doug! Audra & Doug introduced Francesca to the concept of love languages. And it's a tool they have found very helpful throughout their 18-year history together.
OK SO WHAT ARE THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES
Physical Touch/ Affection - Hold hands, hug them, cuddle, etc
Acts of Service - Mow the lawn, do the dishes, fold the laundry, etc
Words of Affirmation - You're so beautiful, You’re good at, and the holy grail… Thank you for
Quality Time - Time together, extravagant or humble, adventurous or lazy
Gifts Giving - Cards, tokens of gratitude, large gifts & also “I’m thinking of you” gifts
WHO CREATED THE LOVE LANGUAGES? Marriage counselor, Gary Chapman, who found that just as people come in different shapes and sizes, so too does their way of giving and receiving love. And it’s important to note, that if you are unaware of your own or your significant other’s way to give and receive love - this can cause some tension between you two! Especially because we often show love in the way we like to receive it. So you may think you’re loving your partner well by doing the thing you’d like them to do for you, but if it’s not their language… it’s falling on deaf ears.
HOW DO I BRING THIS UP TO MY SO
Casually! "I learned about this cool concept today." Cool as a cucumber. Our hope is that you have a healthy relationship with your boo thang, and you can bring this up in a fun, light way. On a walk. Over a glass of wine. Easy, breezy.
We hope this tool really boosts your quarantine time. With your partner. With your kiddos (they have love languages too). With yourself. P.S. the lighting round with Doug at the end of the interview is totally worth a listen :)
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